What flowers do you need to have – & for who – at your wedding? Don’t worry – this is a very common question! And, while I know this may come as a surprise (especially coming from a florist), the answer is… you don’t actually need any.
Having an idea of what you want for each person, though, is really helpful when you start meeting with florists, planners, etc.
What are personal flowers?
You may be wondering, “What the heck do people mean by ‘personals’ when talking about wedding flowers?”
Personals are items that are specifically for a person to carry or wear during the day of the wedding.
Wedding Party Flowers Etiquette
Like everything wedding-related, who gets flowers is entirely up to you and your partner!
The people getting married, and each person in their wedding party, all typically have some sort of floral element.
Traditionally, the parents & grandparents of those getting married also get some sort of floral item. But I think traditions (and “proper etiquette”) are just peer pressure from dead people, and I encourage you to do whatever the hell you want.
Who gets personal flowers?
Here’s a list to get you started, but don’t take this as me telling you these are required!
- Everyone on your side of the wedding party
- Your partner
- Everyone on their side of the wedding party
- Any children involved (flower girl, ring bearer, etc.)
- Others involved in the ceremony: officiants, ushers, etc.
- Important relatives: parents, grandparents, godparents, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc.
- Special guests: anyone else who you and your partner might want to give a little extra attention.
Common personal items my couples order:
Want something more unique for your wedding flowers?
Other, less-traditional items have been gaining popularity for weddings with a bit of a more modern or alternative aesthetic, such as lanterns and hoops.
Opting for a modern take on bouquets can help add a personalized layer to your big day. For example, bouquets with one large flower are a fun way to mix things up!
Hoops are a great option for flower girls. Many venuses no longer allow petals – or anything – to be “tossed” or “thrown,” and since flower girls tend to be pretty young, hoops are easy to carry and are quite durable.
As I said, no flowers are required for your wedding…
It’s important to remember that neither the amount of flowers you have, nor how much you spend on your flowers, make your marriage any more or less valid. You’ll still end the day married to the love of your life.
That being said, I would absolutely love to provide you with some guidance in figuring out what florals you want for your wedding, contact me to set up a consultation!